Disaster stroke when I was born. I call that moment of beauty a disaster because it was a moment when my programming began. I was programmed to do things in certain ways. Beauty would be learning how to do things my way from birth; however that is impossible isn’t it?
I grew to understand that I was robbed of a beautiful moment at birth, therefore I took it upon myself to find moments of beauty on a daily basis through rebellion. As much as I can, I try to do things in unusual ways so that I can afford myself the opportunity to learn. Doing things this way has allowed me to learn what I wouldn’t normally learn if I followed the prescribed methods. Even if I end up doing it the prescribed way, I get the opportunity to understand why it is the “prescribed” method.
I remember when I was in primary school my teacher used to emphasize that we should by all means be unique. Sounds simple enough however in a world were we are prescribed ideals in order to succeed in certain things. Uniqueness is quite a difficult thing to achieve.
After business school I had the option to choose between general management, human resource management and marketing management, because those were my three majors. I choose marketing management because I wanted to explore the world of brands. The best brands are original, and creative. For me to have the best opportunity to be authentic, I have to understand what it takes to be the best brand.
I found beauty in rebellion. It is beautiful because it is unusual, and that is what I found from the best brands they are rebellious.
It all started with me trying to steal my moment of beauty back, and it shaped my whole life. I am unusual because I am a rebel.
Botlhale • Mos
I hate normal.
From the day we are born, we start learning how to live in this complex world. The biggest challenge is not to survive but to live, to enjoy and to have an amazing human experience before we return to our spiritual existence again.
I have realised that most of us are chasing some form of success, socially, financially or otherwise. We are at a constant chase however most of us have never seat down and thought about what we are chasing. We have not defined what our perceptions of our desired success looks like, and that makes the journey impossible to complete.
Frustrations are mostly experienced when people are stuck but they do not understand why they are stuck, they find it impossible to ask for help because they don’t know what to ask for, they basically do not know what is wrong but they know that something is not the way it is supposed to be, because they feel incomplete.
“Successful” people know what they desire, and they know how to achieve their desires. Some people are already “successful” but they desire the glories of success. They are chasing the money, the fame and other things which were not part of the actual dream. Some people have the money and the fame but they have not achieved their dreams therefore they are not successful. A lot of people confuse these two scenarios and that is what stops them from reaching a point of happiness, a point where they are living.
It is important to define your dream. The only way one can achieve anything in life is by defining exactly what one wants to achieve, because without that definition one cannot achieve any form of success because they wouldn’t know how it looks like. There are people who have everything… Think about it!
My dream is to motivate, inspire and teach people how to dream and follow through. I AM DOING EXACTLY THAT EVERYDAY in various ways. That means I am successful. Everything which comes after me doing what I love is the Glory of success.
We desire to live, however we trap our selves in a state of surviving because we cannot define our desires. We are sold everything and we want everything. At the end of the day our happiness, our lives don’t lie in having everything, they lie in that definition we need to all figure out.
Botlhale • Mos
Define the dream
The other day I was talking a walk in my neighborhood just to relax my mind. As I was walking I passed this strange looking house. There was overgrown grass everywhere as well as vines growing on the walls of the house. The place looked dark as if the sun had already went down. As I was just about to pass that yard a dog started barking. I stopped and looked because this house seemed like it was abounded. The dog was in a cage; it started banging the door of the cage however it couldn’t get out as it barked and barked until the owner came out of the house. It was an old man, he had a beer in one hand and a cigarette in the other. He looked at me and said “please move on you are upsetting my dog”. I stood there for a couple of seconds as my mind had just been fucked.
A few seconds later as I was very shocked I “moved on”; I continued with my walk but I couldn’t get what I had just experienced out of my mind. Why is this guy living in such a house with a dog locked in a cage in a dark space? The dog will always see you first and indicate your presence to the man. It is an actual alarm, people do not install alarms unless they want to guard something valuable.
The system creator is always very intelligent, the man reminded me of all the powerful men from the past and some from present times. They have some sort of paranoia. It is either they will try as much as possible to hide themselves from public life or they will flex their power to create fear which will prevent people from confirming who they are, what they do or anything that will cause attention to the reason why their system was created. They are always protecting the system and they know that the system starts and ends with them so they are the curse and the blessing to their system. Therefore what is this man doing in such a house?
Pablo Escobar is a classic example from recent times beides your Hitlers, Nelson Mandelas and many others who knew the power they had. They sell a perception which will be appealing to people so that they can capture them into believing in their systems. “Good” or “bad” power works the same way, because people who have “bad” power see the people with “good” power as bad because they are in opposite ends of power and there is always conflict between positive and negative. Good and bad is also subjective, it is based on how it is packaged and sold.
So this man has trapped this dog inside a cage so that it can guard him, because when he feels safe he knows that his system is safe. He doesn’t even consider the ripple effect he has caused by placing that dog in that cage. In human life it affects the children and the surrounding family members as well as many generations which will follow. Such a simple act of placing a person in a system can cause poverty, unemployment, racism, inequality and many other societal problems, however we do not typically think like that but that is what social engineers “the men” do. They think about it but they don’t consider it because it might just stop them from protecting the system.
Why be the dog when you can choose to be the man? Being the man is as simple as creating a system and making sure that people in your system believe by showing them the benefits of your system. Once they believe you are powerful. Once you are powerful you are the man! Once you are the man you are the system.
…”I should stop being that dog, I rather be the man” I said to myself because I realised where the power lies. The opportunity to be in control. All it takes is a dream and following through.
Botlhale • Mos
The dog and The Man.
The 27th of April is supposed to be a day which brings joy in South Africa, however as the years pass we realise that we were sold a dream which is not materialising the way it was sold. We are still living in a divided society, a racial society and an unequal society. We are fazed with more and more uncertainty as politicians continues to battle for power.
Well many of us have figured out that we are just pawns in an unknown game…
Oppression still exists, during apartheid they discovered a new way of exploiting people. Other nations in the first world were already giving their people freedom. Slavery “ended” while globalisation began. Globalisation is a more lucrative system which requires all human beings to work for currency, and then spend the currency so that the oppressors can make more currency because they own the system.
They offered us “freedom” however they enslaved us through the “class system” which is a restrictor to those who can not afford. It also keeps us working AND THAT ALLOWS THE OPPRESSOR TO BE IN CONTROL OF THE SLAVE.
CLASS is a system which is used to dilute society. A tool which is used to discriminate without being racist. Class has allowed oppressors to be invincible, it has allowed people of different races and different backgrounds to be represented in different classes. Today it is difficult to spot the oppressor because different people can afford most things which previously were only afforded by the oppressor. However most people still live in poverty… the slaves. The working class.
Class is just one tool, the main tool which the oppressor uses is EDUCATION. Education is a system used by the oppressor to up skill us in lucrative fields. A tool which qualifies us to be slaves which are a bit upper in the “class system”. This is a very dangerous tool because it locks your mind into one discipline and you become a title; meaning that all you can do is your title… BE A DOCTOR.
The education system has become very popular in the world to an extent that people believe that the only way to become “successful” is to be “Educated”. The truth is that it just allows you to play the game designed by the oppressor.
One other major issue is OWNERSHIP. when the previous form of slavery ended we didn’t own anything. We do not have land to live in, to farm, to store water or to develop enterprises. The oppressors dispossessed us of everything we had. Slavery lasted for a long time where we lost our knowledge of the importance and the value of ownership. This is how the oppressors continue to own us. We can not afford to buy so we lease and we take on credit.
… A game which our government didn’t know or knew they were getting us involved in. They helped the oppressor sell us fake freedom. Many years will pass until we develop into kings, kings which understand the game we are involved in. Kings which will control their own fate and the fate of others who will come after them. Because what we are living right now is Fake Freedom.
We are slaves to the modern world. The Law, Business systems. Education and the need to have currency to survive. All we need to do is unlearn what the white man has thought us and learn how our forefathers lived. We need to become the Famer once again. WE BECOME THE BOER, WE BECOME WEALTHY, WE BECOME FREE AND WE LIVE!
Living in a messed up world.
A boy noticed that every time he sees his mother fry fish in a pan his mother used to cut off the head and the tail. He then asked his mother why does she do that all the time she prepares fish. His mother’s response was that she learned how to prepare a fish like that from her mother, and she never asked why they prepared it that way. The boy then asked his grandmother and astonishingly his grandmother said she used to prepare the fish like that because back in the old days they didn’t have access to big frying pans, so they chopped the head and the tail off so that the fish can fit in the pan.
Using this story as an example I want to share my frustrations about traditions. I find myself being the boy in the story on a regular basis when I have conversations with elders in my family. I am a very curious person and I disregard things which people try to force on me while they are unable to explain the roots of the tradition they want me to practice.
Often elders are unable to explain why we do things, like in the story the boy’s mother was unable to explain why she chops the head and the tail off, only to find out the tradition was based on convenience. I am seriously against African traditions because most of them cannot be explained. We are already a “westernized society” so why do we try and suggest that a certain outfit shows respect in serious events, for example men in serious events need to wear jackets as a sign of respect and women wear long dresses. Traditional African clothing doesn’t consist of clothing. It consists of skins. Our clothing is Western European culture so can someone explain to me how does a jacket or a dress show respect ? Its a piece of clothing for goodness sake.
I am African so I will talk about African traditions. We believe in many different things and we want to enforce our beliefs onto others without leaving room for them to belief in what they choose. We also feel offended when people go against “our traditions”
We have the responsibility to ask why things are being done the way they are being done because when we skip a generation without asking we are going to end up teaching things which we do not understand ourselves, which is what is happening now… frustrated boys and girls who have simple questions but the answers they receive are”it is our tradition.”
If the mother had asked her mother she would have understood that the preparation method her mother used was based on convenience, and she would have amended the method to what she prefers because she has options today. Her mothers method was not supposed to be a “tradition”… luckily the boy’s grandmother was still alive, because if she wasn’t his mother was going to force a “misguided tradition” on him and he would also pass it down because it would have grown into a tradition.
If elders are going to fail to explain why we do things with a better explanation than “it is our tradition” then I rather be the disrespectful rebel.
Some African traditions are just superstitions, people fear the unknown, people are paranoid and people believe in nonsense which restricts the ability to be open minded.
“To go back to tradition is the first step forward ” – African Proverb
I attended an amazing musical experience in a jazz club. The experience had conflicting emotional tones. It was sad but it was beautiful. It was beautiful but it was painful. It was painful but it was joyous… it was a crazy musical experience, it was genius!
As I was sitting there enjoying this experience and occasionally standing up to dance I was drawn to this beautiful old couple. It seemed like they were on a date. The man was white and the woman seemed Arabic, very beautiful couple. They enjoyed their meals and they shared a bottle of wine using one glass.
As I said the music was so amazing, the lady stood up and walked towards a group of people who were dancing, she joined as if a different spirit had just consumed her. Everyone started to observe her, as she danced her beauty started to illuminate and it filled up the venue. The old man watched her from his seat, he was so intrigued and charmed as if it was the first time he had saw her dance like that. After a couple of songs he stood up, walked towards the dancing crowd, towards her beautiful date and once they reunited on the dance floor the spirit took over the gentleman as well and they danced to this beautiful musical experience.
It was crazy… it was beautiful
I thought to myself; “damn life is not a human experience, it is a spiritual experience” something so simple as sound, influences the human existence in an incredible way. It changes their entire existence because when the sound is present the spirit takes over the body and we do what we wouldn’t normally do with our bodies when the sound is not present. We become more of our true selves.
The importance of art in my existence is that it allows me to live, it allows me to feel it allows me to think it provokes me in so many ways. The presence of Art completes me. It is therapeutic.
It is a spiritual existence, therefore we need to keep nurturing the soul.
Botlhale • Mos
In the Jazz club
Why am I nice to you when you abuse me? Why am I nice to you why you live a good life because of me but you are refusing to pay your dues? Why am I nice to you while I am always thinking about you in the worst way? Why am I nice to you when you continue to do worse things to me? Why am I nice to you when love doesn’t exist between us?
I am nice to you because you took advantage of my vulnerability, you taught me dependence and I depend on you.
I am nice to you because if I don’t be nice I will suffer beyond how I am suffering now.
I am nice to you because I might be afraid of you, and I dress up my true feeling with love.
I am nice to you because you made me your slave and I can not think independently.
Well right now I need to stop being nice to you and learn how to be nice to myself, and live or die with the consequences of not being nice to you.
The worst thing that could happen to me is that I could die, and the best thing is that I could live. Right now being nice to you makes me feel dead… maybe literal death could be the beginning of my life.
Botlhale • Mos
I cannot continue to be nice to you.