We claim to know one another, and through this process we undermine each other based on the perceptions we create about what we think we know about one another. Disrespect is a form of rudeness.
I found myself working so hard to recreate perceptions which people made about me; no matter how hard I worked and no matter what I achieved people would still have this perception about me; they acted rude towards me and I felt disrespected.
I used to be so annoyed about this and thought that my efforts and the respect I give was not necessary. But I had a moment the other day. During this moment I realised that my opinion about myself was not included in the creation of this perception individuals have about me. It was like I am being bothered by a tabloid on TMZ. It hurt my feelings because these rude perceptions were created by people I know and people I interact with on a regular basis.
My character is simple, and that is something I will not change. I value my principles on integrity, kindness responsibility and truth. If one cannot live by these basic values I cannot afford to have them in my circle.
I stopped hurting. I chose to stop hurting, because it was wasting my time, and it was destructive to my life. I allowed them to continue creating perceptions about me; because that is all they will ever be. I allow them to treat me the way they want because they cannot understand me; but I will continue to treat them with respect and kindness. “The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy” – Martin Luther king Jr. This is where I stand in principle.
I chose to live for myself, I chose a positive environment to exist in. I chose to work for myself and those who are interested in my work. I chose to be happy.
Many people suffer in the hands of people who are supposed to love and support them. People who are supposed to make an effort to understand who they are and the kind of perspectives they have about everything. Everyone deserves to be accepted for who they are; especially by those who claim to know you, call you a friend or family. If people do not respect you enough to do those basics; there is no reason to bother yourself about them… no matter who they are.
“When nobody around you seems to measure up, it’s time to check your yardstick.” – Bill Lemley
Botlhale • Mos